Often times, we go into the relationship and dating arena expecting that the other person will make us happy. We inadvertently place the responsibility upon them that they somehow are to magically make us happy. Here’s a news flash! “It is not the responsibility of another person to make us happy.” We alone are responsible for our own happiness. You may be thinking, “but, Kim, being with someone special makes me happy…” — Maybe so, but without that person, are you still happy?
Too many disappointments happen because we expect our happiness to be supplied from someone outside of ourselves. When we come to the table filled with joy, happiness, and love, that is all we can give and that is all we expect to experience.
Sometimes, not all, we place the burden of our expectations on another when they are not equipped to handle them. They haven’t filled themselves with all that we expect of them, so they are unable to deliver. Then we become disappointed and start blaming them for our unhappiness.
Find your own happiness…within you! Then, and only then can you move through your life experiencing the kind of relationship that is a match. When we feel whole, complete, and ready, we will attract someone who is a reflection of those qualities. Start appreciating within yourself the qualities that you seek in someone else, and when he/she appears you will see those qualities. But, when you go in looking for deficiencies, you will see only that…and, let me remind you that when you are in this state, the person you attract will only magnify the deficient qualities you possess within yourself. (please feel free to reread this sentence, it’s a doozy!)
Whatever makes you happy…should be your mantra for yourself and your partner. It is only in the state of individual attainment of happiness that you can experience a happy relationship together. The only expectation you should make of anyone else is that they be happy…whatever that means to them.
A Woman Like Me…will seek to fulfill her life with all the love, joy, and happiness she can first realize on her own, because she knows that she will only attract who she is.