Dating is an opportunity to learn more about what you want in a relationship. The challenge for most women I have talked to about the subject are often starry-eyed when it comes to dating. Most women have single-focused dating agendas, meaning they date someone once or twice and they have made a decision to be “mentally exclusive” with that person. This very often leads to disappointment and heartbreak.
But, let’s take a look at dating in general. Here are some date tips that will help you to view dating in a new way. It’s really a way to open your life up to the opportunities of a commitment. It means you haven’t locked yourself into your narrow view of what a relationship should look like. It provides you with a chance to learn more about what is a fit for you in the long term.
Ladies, date and date often. I didn’t say sleep with every man you date. That’s not what I’m talking about. Even if you are in a committed relationship (without the ring) you have the option to date other men. How can you do this without jeopardizing your relationship — easy, you just simply make it clear that you are lovingly “keeping your options open”. Nothing makes a man think more seriously about the status of their relationship than to know that there is the possibility of someone else coming into the picture. It’s not game playing. In fact, it is a way to be sure of what you want from a relationship. It’s a way for you to take care of your own needs first, then caring for the relationship. So many women lose themselves in relationships. They lose sight of what they really want by always extending themselves to please their man. That’s fine, when you have taken care of you first. Besides, nothing is more appealing to a man than a women who takes care of herself first.
Dating is a way to be charmingly uncommitted to the men/women that you decide to date. It is a “no-strings” approach to simply enjoying the company of your counterpart. It’s not cheating, because there is no emotional, physical, or other attachment. Men do it all the time. It’s just two people enjoying an outing of some sort. This is really empowering when you are faced with challenges in your relationship; again, I stress that commitment comes with a ring. Outside of that, you are simply a date with seniority.
If you are in a relationship that is committed (with the ring), don’t date around. Remain committed to your partner and build the trust necessary for the long-term.
A Woman Like Me…enjoys the opportunities that dating afford her and relish in the empowerment that comes from knowing she has options.
Soul-Mate Talk 