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Dating Tips and Advice: Speak in the Language She Understands

I have been away from my post and I’m sorry…but, I am a little caught up in the getting my new book “Before I Say I Do…” ready for release.  I’ll be announcing the winner of the Complimentary Signed Copy on Monday, October 1st.  So, I hope you subscribed to this blog for your chance to win!

Now for the topic at hand…

Recently, I experienced a bit of a “misunderstanding” with my beau.  Rather than become defensive, I sought to understand his point of view.  I always believe that when you try to understand, you in return will be understood by your partner.

Anyway, in previous conversations he affirmed his love and commitment.  I listened and didn’t doubt for a moment that he was telling me the truth.  But the real truth is we as women are believers of what we see demonstrated in our relationships.  We love receiving the affirmations, but we are over the top happy when he shows us his affection.  Am I right, ladies?

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Let me ask you something…
If you were to propose to yourself, right now, would you say YES?
What would you being say YES to?
Would you marry yourself right now?

Attracting the “Perfect” life partner is not about seeking perfection in another person.
Neither is it about being perfect for them.
Marriage isn’t for everyone – or, is it?

The journey of finding true love begins within you!
Before you say “I Do” to anyone, you must first take a long hard look at yourself to see if there is anything that stands in the way of your ultimate happiness.

Hidden demons not faced…patterns of behavior that have stalled previous relationships…insecurities that you have not overcome.

The pathway to marriage begins with being blissfully single.

BEFORE I SAY I DO…Blissfully Single & Marriage-Minded opens Pandora’s Box and helps you discover your truest most loving gift – You!

Being your absolute best allows you to attract a partner that will reflect that back to you — Isn’t that what we all want?

Take this journey to become “Blissfully Single & Marriage-Minded!”(tm)

Whatever Makes You Happy…

Often times, we go into the relationship and dating arena expecting that the other person will make us happy.  We inadvertently place the responsibility upon them that they somehow are to magically make us happy.  Here’s a news flash!  “It is not the responsibility of another person to make us happy.”  We alone are responsible for our own happiness.  You may be thinking, “but, Kim, being with someone special makes me happy…”  —  Maybe so, but without that person, are you still happy?

Too many disappointments happen because we expect our happiness to be supplied from someone outside of ourselves.  When we come to the table filled with joy, happiness, and love, that is all we can give and that is all we expect to experience.

Sometimes, not all, we place the burden of our expectations on another when they are not equipped to handle them.  They haven’t filled themselves with all that we expect of them, so they are unable to deliver.  Then we become disappointed and start blaming them for our unhappiness.

Find your own happiness…within you!  Then, and only then can you move through your life experiencing the kind of relationship that is a match.  When we feel whole, complete, and ready, we will attract someone who is a reflection of those qualities.  Start appreciating within yourself the qualities that you seek in someone else, and when he/she appears you will see those qualities.  But, when you go in looking for deficiencies, you will see only that…and, let me remind you that when you are in this state, the person you attract will only magnify the deficient qualities you possess within yourself. (please feel free to reread this sentence, it’s a doozy!)

Whatever makes you happy…should be your mantra for yourself and your partner.  It is only in the state of individual attainment of happiness that you can experience a happy relationship together.  The only expectation you should make of anyone else is that they be happy…whatever that means to them.

A Woman Like Me…will seek to fulfill her life with all the love, joy, and happiness she can first realize on her own, because she knows that she will only attract who she is.

Relationships and Dating: Home Is Where the Heart Is…

Ahhhh!!! This feels like home…

This is the ultimate relationship experience; feeling like you’re home with the one you love.

Isn’t this the goal of the whole relationship and dating thing?

You have no inhibitions; you can express your feelings in a way that they know exactly how you feel without blame.  You both really enjoy being in each other’s company, most of the time.

At the end of the day, you know you’re with the right one…the only one for you!

Seems like a dream, but, it’s not…it’s possible for you even if you haven’t experienced it yet.  What I believe happens is when you get real and comfortable with yourself, it is easy to have this kind of “home” grown feeling with your partner.  How?  By releasing yourself from unreasonable expectations of what your relationship should be and accepting it for what it is…where it is in its growth.  Force never works!  It  acts as a man repellent and the minute he feels like you’re trying to convincing, coerce, or force the situation, he leaves emotionally and sometimes, physically.

Relaxing is key – even in the most stressful of situations…staying relaxed and calm will act like magnet to him and he will be attracted to your drama-free demeanor.  Trust me on this, Ladies, it is worth it to just keep your emotions in tact and help him to relax into you.  So that you both can create a space of comfort between you.  After, isn’t that what home is?  A place of comfort and security?  When we have a tough day at work, we can’t wait to get home where we can relax.  The same in our relationships — we look forward to the moment when we can curl and cuddle up in the arms of the one who makes us feel comfort and secure.

A Woman Like Me…relaxes, retreats, and restore balance, comfort, and security in the relationship even when things are in turmoil.  She allows her man to come home to her heart and rest.

 

Date Tips: Ladies, Learn to Be Charmingly Uncommitted

Dating is an opportunity to learn more about what you want in a relationship.  The challenge for most women I have talked to about the subject are often starry-eyed when it comes to dating.  Most women have single-focused dating agendas, meaning they date someone once or twice and they have made a decision to be “mentally exclusive” with that person.  This very often leads to disappointment and heartbreak.

But, let’s take a look at dating in general.  Here are some date tips that will help you to view dating in a new way.  It’s really a way to open your life up to the opportunities of a commitment.  It means you haven’t locked yourself into your narrow view of what a relationship should look like.  It provides you with a chance to learn more about what is a fit for you in the long term.

Lack of Intimacy – Keeping The Passion Alive!

Intimacy — we throw that word around quite a bit in our relationships, but what does it really mean?  Why is it that some couples have a lack of intimacy between them?  How can it be avoided, or can it?

These questions are usually posed after the acknowledgement that there is a lack of intimacy in a relationship.  So, let’s look at why intimacy can becomre an issue.  Let’s begin with how intimacy is defined and how it originates between two people.  At the very core of intimacy is trust, and trust stems from communication, usually verbally, but also with actions.  It is in our communication with our partners that we create connection.  That connection is strengthen with an ongoing feeling of trust and commitment. 

You, Me, & We – Is Three a Crowd?

Over the weekend, some family and friends gathered at my Dad’s house for a BBQ.  We all played cards, dominoes, and engaged in some interesting conversations.  We began talking about relationships…I don’t know why, but this always seems to be the discussion that inspires the most emotionally charged participation.

Afterward, I began to really think about the concept of building a relationship, and as I have written about in many posts and my book  A Woman Like Me…A Man Like You, I discovered a new revelation that I will share here.

When two people come together in a union whether its legally binding or not, it is more than just about the two people.  There is a third person, or entity, that being brought into the equation that is often overlooked and sometimes ignored…that entity is ‘WE’.

‘WE’ is the compromise between YOU and ME.  WE is the stability that builds the relationship and grows it.  Whenever there is no growth in the relationship, stop and take at look at how much attention YOU and ME have paid to WE.